ABOUT ME

I Used to Think Confidence Was for Other People…

There was a time when I thought social confidence was something you either had—or you didn’t.
I stayed quiet in groups, kept conversations shallow, and built walls to avoid the rejection I was sure would come if anyone really saw me.
From the outside, it just looked like I was shy or reserved.

Inside, it felt like being trapped behind glass—desperate to connect, but unable to reach through.
Over time, that quietness hardened into something worse:
Avoidance. Isolation. Shame.
I used distractions to fill the gap—video games, dating apps, mindless scrolling. Anything to escape the discomfort of showing up fully.
The worst part? I blamed myself for it. I thought something was wrong with me for struggling in ways other people seemed to navigate so easily.

The Man Who Tried to Disappear

I came to New York looking for something bigger—but instead I found isolation on a larger scale.
Days blurred into weeks spent behind PlayStation controllers, late nights, and empty habits.
I numbed myself with distractions. I convinced myself I was fine. I thought, this is just who I am.
Until life cracked the shell open.
The end of a relationship—the kind you don't think you’ll recover from—forced me to look at the truth:
I wasn’t living.
I was hiding.
And it was costing me everything—relationships, joy, connection, even basic self-respect.

I Realized Something:

Confidence Isn’t Given.
It’s Trained.

At my lowest, I stumbled into an opportunity—a course called Unshyness.


It wasn’t what I expected. There were no lectures about “just being yourself.”

It was tension.
It was stretching.
It was uncomfortable, daily, real-world challenges that slowly pulled me out of my head and back into life.

The first time I had an authentic conversation with a stranger in the park, something shifted.
Not just in how I connected—but in how I felt about myself.

Social Fitness Was Born

I realized that social confidence isn’t a trait you’re born with.
It’s a muscle. And like any muscle, it can be trained—if you’re willing to do the work.

Since then, I've spent years creating my own framework for breaking free:

  • Tension Reps instead of avoidance

  • Presence instead of performance

  • Social Fitness instead of social fear

And now, I coach others through that same journey—because you shouldn’t have to live stuck behind an invisible wall the way I did.

Why Social Fitness NYC Exists

Social Fitness NYC is for the men and women who know there’s more waiting for them—but feel trapped behind hesitation.
It’s for the ones who are tired of “thinking about changing” and are ready to train for it.
We don’t just talk about confidence here.
We build it.
We train it.
We live it.
Through structured daily challenges, real-world social training, and direct mentorship, we turn hesitation into presence, fear into connection, and isolation into belonging.
You already have the key.
I’m just here to help you use it.

  • It all begins with an idea. Maybe you want to launch a business. Maybe you want to turn a hobby into something more. Or maybe you have a creative project to share with the world.

  • It all begins with an idea. Maybe you want to launch a business. Maybe you want to turn a hobby into something more. Or maybe you have a creative project to share with the world.

  • It all begins with an idea. Maybe you want to launch a business. Maybe you want to turn a hobby into something more. Or maybe you have a creative project to share with the world.

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